The Goode Life

Let’s Hear it for the Big Girls
October 31, 2008, 2:33 pm
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This week is hereby declared “body week,” ladies.

I bet someone of you actually followed my advice and went ahead, took some weight off your chest and exhaled Whitney Houston-style over at true body confessions. I’d also bet that some of you were huffing and puffing about your largesse. If you did, then you’ve got some more ‘splainin to do: you’re getting laid more than everybody else!

According to a study conducted by the University of Hawaii Medical School and and Oregon State University, 92 percent of women whose BMI was in the “overweight” range had reported a history of heterosexual intercourse in comparison to 87 percent of women whose BMI was in the “normal” range.

Dr. Kanishero, one of the lead researchers, said: “These results were unexpected and we don’t really know why this is the case.”

Well, duh, Dr. Kanishero, the thin = sexy paradigm is a social construction that not everyone follows. To each their own, ya know? Some like ’em skinny, and a lot, apparently, like ’em thick.

This does not mean, however, that you should head over to Gino’s East, polish off a deep-dish pie, and then ignore your Spinning class in the morning. Unhealthy is unattractive, no doubt about it. But if you’re taking care of yourself – i.e., eating right and doing some form of movement on a daily basis – clearly there are more than a few men who’ve got love for ya.


No Body’s Perfect
October 29, 2008, 12:26 pm
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If you have a voice living inside your head that frequently pipes up with thoughts and ideas about your body at random, don’t worry. You’re not crazy – you’re one of the millions who are doing the exact same thing, on the train, in class, at an office desk, even while having a conversation.

A new site called True Body Confessions is dedicated to helping women let it all hang out. The cool thing is the “me too” feature, which helps us realize that we’re not alone in our body fears and wonders.

The aim is to show women that everyone, even the women who seem to have it all together, have some issue or concern on their minds. So if you’ve been harboring a confession that you’re anxious to get out, feel free to post it here; it’ll be completely anonymous. Ten bucks says you’ll be shocked at how loud your confession’s “me too” chorus grows.

For Blythe
October 23, 2008, 5:33 pm
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When I first met her, she was slight, stuttered horribly, and was plagued with the Sally Jesse Raphael frames.

Not a good look for the seventh-grade, trust me.

But, since she had the same name as my older sister – who was the epitome of cool, and still is – I automatically wanted to be her friend. [Lame? Possibly. Good decision? Definitely.]

Blythe appeared to be quiet and shy, but was funny, rambunctious, and a bit on the wild side – a side that became more apparent as we entered high school.

Nonetheless, she and I both dreamed of being magazine editors, and would daydream together about our fabulous lives in NYC, where we would work as high-powered editors who always, always wore stilettos.

Time has the strange effect of pulling people apart, and after graduation we drifted in different directions: she to the East coast, I to the Harvard of the Midwest [*cough* Go Blue *cough*].

Sadly, Blythe passed away this past Sunday, randomly, quietly, in her sleep. She was engaged to be married, she had her dream job as an editorial assistant at a top women’s magazines, and just like that, she was gone, reason unknown.

When I relayed the news to my mother, after she recovered from her shock, she began rattling off a list of to-do items:

1. “Take your vitamins.”

2. “Make sure you get sleep.”

3. “Don’t stress so much.”

4. “Eat right and exercise.”

5. “Have you had your physical?”

While true for any woman, women of color have to be particularly careful and especially vigilant when it comes to putting their health first. Since most women of color lack quality care in spite of the fact that they are also predisposed to contracting or developing a host of diseases and ailments, it’s necessary to take your health seriously.

I’ve lost touch with Blythe, so I don’t know if she was going down the checklist above or not, but what’s most important is that you begin to. If you don’t pay attention to your own health, who will?

Testing Time
October 22, 2008, 9:05 pm
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Remember our little conversation about doing self breast-exams?

Apparently, they may not be as helpful as was originally thought:

Are Self-Breast Exams Really Beneficial?

Whaddya think ladies?

At Least One Thing Not Only White People Should Like
October 13, 2008, 4:10 pm
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Congrats to all the people who finished the Chicago marathon yesterday! And a big “get-off-your-ass” to all of you who thought about it but instead decided to live vicariously through the sidelines.

Who began the myth that running marathons is only cool if you lack any melanin? What makes the idea even more crazy is the fact that some of the most famous sprinters are people of color!
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Get Your Soy On
October 11, 2008, 10:51 pm
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One of the biggest challenges I faced when I decided to go whole-hog vegetarian was what I like to call The Tofu Factor.

Everyone assumed that I would go from turkey sandwiches to broken bits of white, tasteless fluff that – while one of the cornerstones of most veggie’s diets – I couldn’t get with. So, I made the cornerstones of my vegetarian diet all carbs, all candy, all the time. [Beware of the vegetarian diet if you’re looking for weight loss: there will be absolutely nothing stopping you from consuming all the baked goods your sweet tooth desires. Meat-free baby!]
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My Pants Are on Fire, Yo
October 8, 2008, 10:43 pm
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I’ve got a confession. [No one’s reading over your shoulder, right? Okay good.]

…I tell tall tales to my doctor.

Not that bad you say? Those little white lies about exercising at least thirty minutes a day [since when does exercising my eyeballs watching “Mad Men” NOT count?], doing daily breast exams, and always, ALWAYS, always using condoms [geez, I almost feel like lying to YOU about that one.]

Still not a big deal, you say? Then allow me to provide you with a reality check.

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